Friends and Family Standing Between You and Your Dreams ? ? ?

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it was Saturday morning and I was meeting a friend at a local coffee shop.


My friend brought someone he thought would benefit from our conversation.

As we sat down, my friend got an important call and had to step outside.

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We grabbed our coffees and sat down.

Clark: So what do you do for a living?

Paul: (chuckles) I deliver pizzas.

Clark: You chuckled when you told me. Why?

Paul: Well, it’s not what I want to do for the rest of my life.

Clark: Do you know what you want to do?

Paul: (almost immediately and with enthusiasm) Yes!

Clark: What’s stopping you?

Paul: My friends and family tell me it won’t work out.

Clark: What makes you think they know what’s best for you?

Paul: Well, I know they care and they’re just trying to look out for me.

Clark: I get it and I’m sure they believe they’re helping.

We smile at each other…

Clark: One of the best things that ever happened to me came in the form of criticism.

Paul: Huh?

Clark: I say that, because it made me realize I had to think for myself.

Paul: Okay…

Clark: You see I’m an introvert and I grew up amongst extroverts; extroverts, who made it crystal clear, that the extroverted life is the only way to live and anything else is stupid.

Paul: How could that ever be good?

Clark: The good part of that experience is it taught me how people can be utterly convinced, without a doubt, that they know what’s best and yet be totally wrong and not have a clue as to what they’re talking about.

Paul: Interesting.

Clark: The funny thing is, I had a boss who was a lot like them. She told me I shouldn’t be in the business world. I never believed her and since my salary tripled while I worked for that firm, I think we can safely say, that she, like the family I grew up with, didn’t know what they were talking about.

Paul: Wow! I never thought experiences like that would have a positive side.

Clark chuckles

Paul: I guess what I’m getting out of our conversation is your experience made you comfortable rejecting the opinions of others and as a result you developed a habit of thinking for yourself which enabled you to pursue your own dreams.

Clark: Exactly. (Sigh) Because of my experience, I wrote the following…

Perhaps the greatest lesson you will ever learn is no one understands you like you do.

 Everyone you meet will judge you based on their experience, values and beliefs.

No one understands what drives you, your strengths and capabilities and how long and hard you will work to achieve your goals.

Who do you think will be better equipped to advise you throughout your journey —

Someone who doesn’t know you or someone who knows you like no one else?

– Clark Finnical

The funny thing is I wrote this after reading what Albert Einstein said on the subject.

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.

The mediocre mind is incapable of understanding the man who refuses to bow blindly to conventional prejudices and chooses instead to express his opinions courageously and honestly.

– Albert Einstein


Clark Finnical is a Career Expert and the author of 

 Job Hunting Secrets (from someone who’s been there)

LinkedIn Strategies to Take Your Career to the Next Level , 

 12 Lies Told To Job Seekers,

 How to Stand Out: From All of the Other Candidates

What No One Told You About Job Titles and Your Job Search  

The Job Loss Mind Game: What Really Happened And What You Need to Do Now


Featured Image by Denys Nevozhai on Unsplash

Photo I by Katlyn Giberson on Unsplash

Photo II by Jacob Townsend on Unsplash


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